You have so many new things happening in your life as a result of a divorce and custody battle.

Your life is undergoing a major change and your life partner is no longer your life partner.

You may change your residence, lose possessions, lose money, lose friends,  and most importantly, you may not be living with your children.

If your one of those men that worked hard and played hard with the hopes of providing for your family and enjoying the finer things in life, this shake up will rattle your cage.

The idea that you’re not eating meals with your children, able to talk to them when you want, can’t see them when you want and are possibly being limited in your ability to raise them as a loving father can be a real gut bunch especially when the mother starts making decisions from education to shoes to medical care without your involvement—as though you don’t matter..

I had to experience all of that from the time my son was born.

Congratulations—you’re a father! Now shut up, sit down and just write me checks.

Many men are used to hearing similar words in a divorce as the battle begins. It’s stressful and all these new factors cause your health to decline.

When the divorce started, you were in your 30s or 40s, and in pretty good health.  You feel like everything was going right in your life and nothing could shake it up on you.

You’ve got a successful career, are able to manage your business affairs, your personal affairs, time with your children, and whatever activity from exercise to golf that adds “balance” to your life.

Then came the divorce, the juggling of two households, kids shifting between homes and time with your attorney.

With more on your plate and less time with your children, you end up foregoing your exercise routine and begin spending more time out trying to mask the pain you’re feeling.

You’ll be eating poorly, eating later at night, and consuming more alcohol. Those enjoyable activities will have a negative impact on your health over the course of the divorce and without you recognizing it at first, they’ll compromise your immune system.

The first cold you get will seem normal and come on right after a business trip or time spent with your children who are in school (which is like a petri dish).

Then, you’ll find yourself getting ill on a more frequent basis and while you try to excuse it, it will be a warning sign of things to come.

Just recently I’ve had two men share with me their experiences that are similar to what I experienced. Each of them had even worse experiences than me when it came to the effects of the divorce on their mental and physical health.  Both had rude awakenings from their divorce process.

The more time you interact with your wife about issues related to your children (who is trying to destroy you in this process), or your attorney, the more you are stressed and you end up with high blood pressure.

As the divorce continues, you find there’s an increased amount of attention being given to your divorce and less attention being given to your health, exercise and you may even lose focus on your work.

The once happy-go-lucky guy goes from being angry at the world, bitter and jaded.  He doesn’t even want to participate in the activities he once enjoyed.

It happened in part due to the slight depression and because he’s finding himself more tired.

You continue eating poorly and your blood pressure is constantly on the rise your heartbeat is racing and you’re chugging more coffee.

Boom! Now you have trouble getting out of bed at the normal time and now you’re gaining weight that is causing you to buy new pants.  You find yourself having trouble breathing resulting in sleep apnea and maybe even get hospitalized with stomach pains or your racing heart that has you thinking the worst.

Once of these men found himself hospitalized after spending spring break with his children where his symptoms started with vomiting and diarrhea and eventually lead to  skin conditions along with the biggest weight loss plan imaginable in just 7 days. He didn’t leave the United States for their vacation.

Upon his discharge, the doctor encouraged him to eat all the foods they normally caution against just so he could build back muscle and weight.

What he found most surprising is that the doctor immediately questions this man about their various symptoms and deduced that he must be going through a divorce.  The doctor said he’d seen an increase in these systems among middle-age men being more pervasive during a divorce than any other time.

The doctor’s advice also included exercise, time with a new woman and rest when needed.

Divorce is a life altering situation that may affect you mentally but will eventually affect you physically if you allow it.

You will need to compartmentalize what’s going on in your life and make sure that as the stress increases, you have set time aside to go on vacation, to reenergize and relax on the weekends.

Eat healthy and get plenty of sleep.

Make sure to organize fun activities with your children.

When you’re dealing with your attorney, try to limit those interactions throughout the week or months to only when necessary.

Avoid discussions with your attorney around the times you are about to see your children or right after you’ve seen your children. You are more likely to be extra emotional and need to avoid making rash decisions.

More importantly, you need to bring your “A” game to the time spent with your children for their sake and yours.

And there’s more

When the smoke clears you’re hopefully going to be ready for a new woman in your life and the happiness that you deserve. If you’re overweight and not looking your best you may end up getting depressed if your don’t find the person that is meant to be your better half.

Now you’ll be behind the eight ball and stressed for another reason.

So, if you want to keep your ex-wife-to-be from defeating you, do it by staying alive with a lifetime filled with happiness.  Don’t let her bullshit compromise the good health and long, happy life you deserve.

If you want to hear more about these experiences so you can avoid the pitfalls, hire the Political Divorce Consultant and get yourself on a path towards happiness.